Tea Party Diva - Life & Craft

These rules of Victorian etiquette relate to husbands, wives and children.

Knowing and using the correct rules of etiquette was very important to one’s social standing, whether as a hostess or as a guest. Proper etiquette was equally important at home.

I love the rule about the danger of a dangling fan!

Husbands, Wives & Families

More Etiquette Rules from an 1888 Etiquette Guide

You should marry for love or not at all.

You should avoid arousing your wife’s jealousy by lavish praises of other women. Nor should you pay marked attention to others when she is by.

You should avoid telling doubtful stories in the presence of your wife. Nor should you do anything to blunt refinement.

Modesty is a woman’s most lovely attribute.

Don’t wear your fan dangling from your wrist, as, when dancing it might strike other people.

You should have your husband’s slippers ready for him when he comes home, preferably by the fire.

Don’t use too much pearl powder. Think of your partner’s clothes when dancing.

You should guard your wife as your most cherished possession, and make sure you make provision for her should you die.

And the Victorians were a bit tough on the poor kids and their doting parents, with this etiquette advice….

Children should be kept in their proper place. You must realise that other people are not as interested in them as you are.

Times Past